Lesson 1: The First 10 Messages · Pick your match
Approachable, smart, slightly nerdy. Engages with anyone showing real personality. Forgiving — good for getting reps.
Tests you out of the gate. Hold frame, push back, don't apologize. Cave once and you're toast.
100+ matches a week. Won't open a generic 'hey'. Bold or be ghosted. Real reps for high-bar matches.